Raising the Bar on Sex & Love for Christian Singles

The results are in and it’s official…..

Single Christian adults are definitely getting busy. And by busy, I am referring to sexual intimacy. And by Christians, I referring to those who profess a personal relationship with Christ.

In my recent poll, “Is it Possible for Single People Not to Have Sex?”, I asked all my readers to rate the Percentage of Adult, Christian, Singles who Practice Celibacy/ Sexual Purity. According to the responses received, the majority of you thought that less than 45% of Christians were practicing sexual purity.

If the results of this survey mirror today’s society, that means that less than half of all Christians are following the principles that are paramount in their faith. Christ said, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments” (John 14:15 NASB). And His commandment concerning sex before marriage was very clear:

“Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body” (1 Cor 6:18 NLT).

“Flee from the lust of your youth” (1 Tim 2:22) and

“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body…” (1 Thess 4:3-4 NIV).  We see here that the Bible teaches against pre-marital sex, so why does it seem that so few Christians follow some of the teachings pertaining to sex?

One reason could be that some single, Christians are only concerned about their own desires. I think that a lot of people feel entitled to do what feels good and to go for what they know. These people may be educated, successful and believe that it doesn’t take “all that” to have a good relationship. Or they could just be narcissistic and feel like they are “grown”, but either way, I don’t think God is pleased with that mentality.

I have to admit that years ago, before I met my husband, I was in a long-term relationship and I was sexually active. But, God showed me that He wanted me to give up sex, so slowly He started teaching me and holding me accountable. It definitely wasn’t easy, but eventually I was able to stop having sex.  Then, I remained celibate for many years until I got married in 2009. That process was not easy and people did not understand it, but I made that decision because I loved God and wanted to obey Him, so He gave me power to change.

Single Christian adults have to be willing to take the plunge and jump all the way in. No one can cherry-pick what to follow or which commands they agree with. The writing is on the wall about God’s view on pre-marital sex. So, if you profess to follow Christ, I think you should take a leap of faith to trust God concerning your relationships too.

Perhaps another reason that single Christians aren’t winning the battle with sexual purity is because they don’t know how to stay pure? It starts with a clear conviction and willingness to practice purity.  And from there, it requires that you put things to place to help achieve purity: like setting boundaries, dating in public and having accountability. I’ve written about this subject a lot, so check out “Getting busy & Doing the Do“, “I Am Worth the WAIT” and my FREE “E-book on Courtship“, which discusses sexual purity. These are great tools that will teach you practical principles to help you maintain sexual purity.

In short, we have to raise the bar. We have to do better. It’s sad to believe that less than half of all Christians are winning the battle with sexual purity. God promises to give us power to overcome every challenge (1 Cor 10:13) and I’m living proof that you can stop having sex and come to a place of purity. So, it just starts with your heart. Do you love Him?

Follow Him then.

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